Most of us can be tempted to allow the approval, acceptance and love showered upon us by other people to define us. We can have thoughts like, “Unless we are accepted by others, we are not worthy enough” or “If people don’t love me, it means that there’s something wrong with me”. No, quit letting other people control your life. Here are some important things to remember while dealing with people:
Don’t worry about what others think of you
Most people live a crushed and torn life but just try to put up with it just fearing, ‘what will others think about me if they knew the reality?’ An old saying goes like this, “At twenty years of age, we wonder what people think of us; at forty, we don’t care what people think of us; at sixty we realize, nobody was even thinking of us.” It’s so true. We end up wasting a lot of time worried about what other people will think and hence settle for less than what is best for us and then realize in the end that it was not worth it because other people`s approval wasn’t a thing to be bothered about when dealing with people.
Don’t feel sorry for who you are
Some people are so guilty that they can’t fit into the approval list of somebody else. Your personality, character,, personality, list of likes and dislikes, strengths and weakness are something unique to you. Some people may think that you are ‘showing off’ because of your strengths or make you feel miserable for your weakness, or think you are weird for your line of interests. Every person is unique, so be yourself. Don’t feel sorry because somebody else is not happy about who you are.
Don’t be ashamed for what you stand for
You may have a set of principles, policies, ethics, beliefs, values and guidelines by which you run your life. Some people might consider it silly and may not really understand why you are holding onto such principles. They may try to convince you out of what you`ve known as the right thing. These traditions might have been passed down from your ancestors or engraved in your heart through someone.. But you don’t have to hold on to them just to keep someone else happy. Discern and stand up for yourself.
Don’t apologize if you are not yielding to their advice
People will be ready to give you advice and instructions on how to live your life, on how to deal with certain issues and so on. But if you watch carefully, most people who give you advice don’t know how to run their own life. So, you should learn to listen to the right voices.. Some people may get offended. But that’s their problem not yours.
Don’t go around trying to make everyone happy
Yes, you read it right. It’s not your job to keep everybody happy. No matter what you do, you cannot make everyone happy. There will always be someone who finds fault or criticizes you. Most times, it’s not because you are in the wrong, but rather it’s a problem with them. It could be the bitterness, jealousy, envy, and ego or hurt buried deep in them that causes them to behave that way. Be nice and kind to them but don’t go out of your way to prove that you are normal.
Relationships are important in every person’s life, but it’s very important to know where to draw the line. The tips above can be used as guidelines when dealing with people.